Dawson Drama

Dawson’s Creek!  “Certifiable” Says Joey!  I don’t remember high school like this at all!  But I love to watch and live in their make believe high school world.  However! All the drama going on in the main character’s parent’s lives seem like real problems that married couples deal with; adultery, death, stress.  Although movies portray failing marriages constantly and are ultimately make-believe in the movie world as is Dawson’s creeks crazy high school fiascos, I see adultery, stress and death around me all the time… 

Thank the Lord I have not dealt with these problems in my own marriage or at least not to an extent that will bring Jared and I apart but I have come to realize what we can possibly do to combat these problems if they start to rear their ugly heads. 

Well, I think the easy one is stress.  I think I have small bouts of stress that come and go very quickly.  I see the pile of dirty laundry and dirty dishes and shoes by the door and crud in the sink and boxes in closest and … and… and…  I blow up with stress with just a quick walk through of our adorable little apartment….  And what does Jared do before he leaves for work, “I don’t want you to clean anything today.  I’ll do everything when I get home.” Smile after smile.  Kiss after kiss.  You know what’s funny is that he’s said this before and he’s cleaned everything where it takes me all day to clean… it takes him an hour.  Of course there’s been those Friday’s that I clean everything and certain things I feel are mine to clean regardless (Kitty liter pan) but I think it’s okay to let my husband take the load if it will cause me to de-stress.  If I’m going to get stressed out, blow-up, have a bad attitude for one day because I’m overwhelmed with everything else and the house cleaning makes me crack… who, ultimately, gets the brunt of my darn crabby attitude?  Jared!  Not fair and not healthy!   What Jared has done is he’s given a little at his own expense.  I know he can get stressed and overwhelmed but he’s decided to put that aside for meee!!  Don’t worry ya’ll! I’ll give a little too a little later after I relax! You can’t blame me!  I’m already happier and excited to stay together with the man of my dreams; A man willing to clean everything for that one day so I can relax and be happy doing nothingness!  And I’ve been doing laundry all week and cooking dinner so he’s not doing eeeverything! I think what I’m trying to say is that one key to combat stress in marriage is to see what your spouse needs when they need it and act accordingly!  

Alright, losing a loved one or a spouse is pretty hard.  In Dawson’s creek, the main character, Joey, says that her mom was lost to cancer and her dad ran off.  Jared has once said “I’m dying before you and that’s that.”  I know death can happen at any time, anywhere so it’s hard to prepare.  I know with that statement that Jared made he is implying that he doesn’t want to live without me.  I don’t want to live without him either but we both know, however, that whenever we do die, we will see each other again in Heaven.  We both believe that Jesus died for our sins on the cross and we will live an everlasting life.  When this life is over, we will not have to live without each other because we are both going to the same place.   Easy Peasy!

Okay… now to adultery.  In Dawson’s creek, Dawson’s mom is having an affair with her co-worker.  If you haven’t seen the show, don’t worry, you see this in the second episode so I’m not ruining anything! Anyway! This is a tough one.  I’m so in love with Jared that I couldn’t see myself straying.  Hmm.. Okay, how bout this.  I’m a huge fan of Christian Slater.  …. Why, you ask?  Watch Bed of Roses.  Thank you very much!  Okay…  For my 24^th birthday, I asked Jared for a Christian Slater movie poster…  Bed of Roses to be exact (Surprise. Surprise.)!   Anyway!  Not only did Jared get me a Christian Slater movie poster, he made me a poster with small pictures of every movie poster that Christian Slater was associated with.  

Yes, men… take note!   This didn’t make me more excited about Christian Slater… It made me more excited about Jared.  Regardless of the man-reason for making this poster for me, he made it and made me realize how good I have it!  Lots of Love, Effort done effortlessly and a complete and utter LACK of jealousy!  **Swoon!  Adultery, cheating, emotional chemistry, whatever,… can make its way into a marriage pretty easily.  A lack of love, no effort or jealousy can make people look for others who will temporarily make them happy; a quick fix for an easily fixable problem.

Jared is a smart man.  He made me realize how lucky I am early on with a simple gesture.  And now Christian Slater is just a poster, those dishes will get washed today and Thanks to God for what I know and have in Him.  Good Job, Jared!