happy lazy peachy married: Happy Sappy

I’ve always been a little intimidated by death; it’s inevitable, I don’t like to cry and I’ve never known what to do when others grieve. There have been several very important parts of my life that have left this world; my two very best friends, Justin, who died in 2006 and my puppy dog of 18 years, Sugar, who died in 2010. I really don’t know how I would’ve been able to get through grieving if I had to cry all alone. Jared was there through all of it. He held my hand through Justin’s funeral and hugged me in silence for hours while I cried in disbelief of my puppy dog dying. He was just there. Silent. Taking on whatever sadness I had as his own. I love him for that. I know God brought Jared into my life to not only love me back for the rest of my life, but to help me through these tough times. Knee deep in the grieving process, I couldn’t see the benefits of companionship but I was able to get through it. Jared was there to take on that grief with me. But what am I to do when that role falls on me as a wife?

Saturday, I attended my sister’s father-in-law’s funeral. His name was Nick. Although it was sad, it was also very sweet and simple just like Nick. My sister didn’t say anything but she was there, front row, grieving with her husband.

I love how I can take after that example.

Just be there.

Silent.

Taking on whatever you can.

I love how this reminds me of how God works.

He’s just there.

Silent.

Taking on whatever he can. Really whatever we are willing to give him.

I know that was what my sister was doing. Without even knowing, she was following after God’s example to help her husband grieve over the loss of his father. And Jared …without even knowing, was being groomed by God to be a great husband for me.

I know death is inevitable. I really don’t like to cry (I always get those pesky migraines behind the eyes) and I’ve never been to sure how to help others cope. BUT I’m glad God is evident in the experiences I’ve had and the people I see.

SO!

Just be there.

Silent.

Taking on whatever you can…. With Love.